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> Using professional photos conveys neediness & a level of desperation.

Instinctively, I agree with you, but might this actually not be true anymore? I've noticed how "accepted" it is to share lots of selfies today, while before that used to be very obvious signs for self-absorbed/narcissistic/superficial/etc people, so I'm wondering if maybe we're both wrong thinking this today.

Maybe like how selfies became part of the modern social interaction, getting professional photographs for dating services might be entering the same phase too?



I mean I don't have the data. Instinctively... the below both have the same implication and contrived negative attraction:

- A mirror selfie of a man smiling

- A professional photo of the same man posing with a confident look (confidence is highly conflicted here imo)

Intuitively I don't think it's about norms vs general laws of attraction.




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